OMG, leave it to me to be on a beautiful ship, going to amazing places and simply want to get off the boat and go home. That happened today, as I was packing my bags and about to leave. If you’ve seen my twitters for today, or read the daily post that is bound to show up in a few hours, you’ll see I had a melt down.
I am not one to go on vacation and just sit and do nothing. I get some like that, like to just sit on the beach and do nothing. I can’t. I want to go places, see things, do stuff, have fun. Unfortunately I am on vacation with the wrong people!
Now anyone who reads my blog clearly knows I like to bitch and complain ? It’s a fault of mine, I would I could be better about it. I just open my mouth and it comes out. I try hard not to do it on vacation, but when shit happens and I get upset, angry, frustrated or anxious; well complaints pour out of my mouth. A lot of the time what I’m trying to vent is frustration or anxiety, and it comes out as complaining.
One thing I really really really try hard not to do is complain about the people I’m with! I’m not always successful, but I try not to complain about them. Of course because I complain, they complain about me ? I am used to it, it comes with the territory, I have to suck it up. After awhile it can become irritating, and sometimes I just lose it all together and blow up.
That happened today. I wanted to see the Forts in San Juan. The minute we arrived at the first one comments were made, clearly this was of no interest to anyone but me and there was no desire to go to the second Fort. I even paid the measly 3 bucks per person for everyone to get in, as even that fee got snotty comments. I was the only one looking around and showing any interest at all. If you see the twitter pics I posted, how can you not wanna see this stuff? It was beautiful!
Basically when it became apparent that there was clearly something more fun we should be doing, like just sitting on our balcony looking down at the city, I stormed off. I decided I would just do what I wanted to do an not be subjected to anymore comments about it. The rest you can see in my tweets post lol.
I later returned to the ship and honestly packed half of my bags and was ready to walk off the ship and just go home. I could have gotten a plane from Puerto Rico easily. Of course John said that would make him very unhappy and would ruin his vacation. I eventually stayed.
However I made it clear tonight that since I was such a miserable unhappy person I would not be ruining their vacations by subjecting them to spending time with me and hearing me wine. Why did I stay again? John kept insisting I not leave, so I said fine. Again I said they would have to see me minimally for the rest of the vacations. I would spend the days doing my work, which honestly is what I should be doing and not on this boat. I will not be attending fun table dinners, I’ll eat on my own. I will not be drinking in the bars (well with them). I am very used to them stuffing their faces till it hurts then having to go to bed by 8pm, poo-pooing the shows on the boat, the entertainment and everything else except the fabulous spa. I’ve been making my own fun the past two nights. I am used to them going to bed by 8 or 9 on all these cruises and I having to go out and have fun by myself.
That more than anything not only irks me, but irked me today. I obviously have no issues doing things by myself, I do every night. I can go on vacation alone and honestly have fun, done it before. So if nobody but me wanted to go to these forts, why the hell did you come? They could have just stayed on the ship doing nothing, which would have made it easier all around honestly.
I’m now off to find shows, entertainment or something to do till the dance club opens. I did dance a little last night, tonight I will be dancing and I don’t care if I look stupid dancing alone or people stare at me. Fuck’em all ? I did not pay all this money to eat, lounge around go to sleep. I could have done that at home for free.
Post Note: To be fair, this is my blog and clearly from my perspective. I know the other side of the story is I was the rude nasty one today by walking off and ditching them . . . . I am the high maintenence one throwing the hissy fit. Like I said though, do me a favor and don’t do something with me that you don’t want to do . . . It just drags the fun down for the people who do enjoy that activity.
things happens.
it is best to plan things ahead of times.
u wouldn’t have to spent $3 for the other two person.
u could always meet up later after the separate things.
Aww Dustin, I really hate to hear it’s been a downer of a vacation. I gotta tell ya.. you and I are a whole lot alike! I’m a complainer too. And I have the same issues with my hubby about my attitude.. hell, we’ve been married 12 years, you’d think he’d KNOW how I am and how I’m not going to change! I look at it this way.. I know people don’t want to listen to me bitch all the time, but I’d rather complain and get it off my chest than have all that bottle up inside me until I explode (like my hubby does.. and that is NOT pretty)! And the people who are with you, they know you well enough to know what to expect. You’re paying for this, you have every right to enjoy it the way you want to enjoy it. And BTW.. if I was with ya, I’d love to visit those forts! Your pics are awesome! Maybe next year, you should host a “fans of Dustin” cruise 😉
relax at the shows, maybe go get some drinks, or if the ship has a theater go see some movies, you can have your own fun on your own maybe if others don’t want to do the same things with you. it’s your vacation, so have fun!
That was sweet that John asked you stay…more than once!!! I can’t sit still on a vacation, either. I want to see everything and go everywhere possible. I get on Travis’s nerves by the end of day 1! Next year, I’m coming with you, and we’ll leave the boys behind:) Try to enjoy the rest of your vacation and have a dance for me!!!
Dustin—I’m glad that you’re going to continue the cruise—but have fun the “Dustin” way. I’m glad that you “b–itch” and let it out—your blog is a way of just saying it like it is to you! Those who don’t like it don’t have to read it. I’ve been following your Tweets today and was really concerned about you–lots of money and “plans” to be a total bust. Enjoy the rest of your time–do your own thing–have fun!! DON’T WORK SO HARD!!!
I am curious about the cemetery–did you take any other pictures–it looks very old and interesting. The fort “bathroom” made me laugh out loud!
Enjoying my vacation through your eyes!
I did not get close enough to see the cemetery. I have always been weary of going into it honestly. Not sure how safe it is Plus you have to find the right road to get into it, its set far below the hroind level in a depresion and there is a tunnel road to access it.
I said to my chatroom friends last night I would not do this again unless I was bringin some of them, as I can’t fathom paying money to sit and do nothing. I know if they were here they would be partying all nightt having big fun with the wretched. 🙂
Dustin! You remind me of myself! Settle down a little bit and realize that Rome wasn’t built in a day. On the flipside of that remind your buddies that CRUISES are for fun! One must take advantage of each and every moment of either learning or enjoying the time to experience new and fun things! But, that being said, I’ve been with my hubby over 25 years. It’s takes lots of time to cumulate and grow relationships. Glad you’re “staying” you are just burning the candle at too many ends to really relax… good luck sweetie! you’re going to need it for the new job!
Take care!
I’m sorry you aren’t having more fun– or with someone who shares your brand of fun.
I hope that next time you plan a vacation with different folks
I get it. I am totally like that too… I tend to complain a lot on vacation as well. Try to not let it get to you and ruin your own vacation! Make the most of it, hope you manage to enjoy yourself even if the people around you aren’t even half as cool as you!